This pursuit of unavailable distant people has oedipal roots.… fearing the consequences, they make certain that they fail at the attempt.”― Distancing, Kantor (p.115)

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Distancing in this quote is a very common and in some ways is quite healthy for us in the long run. However, when we distance ourselves from people we love, we run the risk of developing unhealthy relationships with unavailable distant people. Unavailable distant people are those that we meet but whom we know can never be ours. They are nothing more than convenient crutches that allow us to avoid dealing with the painful issues that could arise when we actually try to connect with them. Unfortunately, many of these relationships never see the light of day, instead remaining just fantasies that help us avoid dealing with our own issues.

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